食色视频 State鈥檚 Garrard Conley candid about his best-selling memoir and upcoming novel

KENNESAW, Ga. | Mar 22, 2024

With his big cloud of black hair standing straight up, the gleam in his bright eyes, and the fluidity of his body as he speaks, it鈥檚 easy to be intrigued by 食色视频 State assistant professor of creative writing Garrard Conley. It鈥檚 easier still to be entranced by how candidly he speaks about religion, sexuality, activism, and why he asks his students to write with compassion even about the most flawed human beings.

Conley is the author of 鈥淏oy Erased,鈥� a 2016 Lambda-nominated memoir adapted into a major motion picture starring Lucas Hedges, Nicole Kidman and Russell Crowe. It tells the story of a closeted gay son of religious parents being forced into conversion therapy.

鈥淲hen director Joel Edgerton first told me he was considering Nicole Kidman for my mom and Russell Crowe for my dad, I just laughed,鈥� Conley said. 鈥淚 thought it was ridiculous, that it would never happen. I knew my mom would be flattered, but I wasn鈥檛 going to even tell her. Then, a few days later, Nicole said 鈥榶es.鈥欌€�

Conley first broached the idea of his life story as a book when he was a graduate student.

鈥淲hen I started sharing drafts of early chapters, I wanted to know if my classmates would judge my father in a way that I felt was unfair,鈥� Conley said. 鈥淭hrough my writing, I hoped they would come to understand my father as a complex human being who defies many of the labels they may have about a Missionary Baptist preacher from small-town Arkansas. A lot of readers have preconceived notions about the South, and I want my work to offer a challenge to that readership.鈥�

The path from finding the courage to tell his story to seeing it portrayed on the big screen was long and winding, but the journey is an important aspect of what he teaches his students at 食色视频 State.

鈥淚 never want my students to think luck wasn鈥檛 involved,鈥� Conley said. 鈥淏ut there鈥檚 also a certain amount of grit and determination. Hopefully, you have talent, but that鈥檚 really the smallest part of the equation.鈥�

Luck and grit intersected for Conley in 2013 when he attended a writer鈥檚 conference in Boston. That鈥檚 where a friend invited him to a party where he sat next to an influential writer and critic. Conley pitched the concept of his memoir, and the critic, immediately intrigued, invited him to meet her agent. A couple of sleepless weeks later with nonstop work drafting several more chapters of his memoir, Conley had a contract with that agent.

Getting an editor to agree to publish 鈥淏oy Erased鈥� was one of the bigger challenges.

鈥淚t felt niche to a lot of people,鈥� Conley said. 鈥淭hey didn鈥檛 see the potential for LGBTQ stories at the time, and I remember repeatedly hearing versions of 鈥榞ay memoirs don鈥檛 really sell.鈥欌€�

One publisher, Penguin Random House, finally said yes. Conley had a year to complete the book.

鈥淚t felt like a dream to me,鈥� Conley said. 鈥淚 was nervous I wouldn鈥檛 be able to write it. I kept asking, 鈥榙o I have it in me to write this?鈥欌€�

Conley forged ahead, writing in the early mornings before dawn and teaching high school during the day. His book was published, and he soon realized it had not only opened eyes and started mainstream conversations, but his book was also saving lives.

鈥淚 got an email pretty early on from this 16-year-old student named Max,鈥� Conley said. 鈥淗is parents were pretty conservative, and they wouldn鈥檛 approve of the book at home. So, he would go to the library to read it, and his suicidal ideation would lessen. He鈥檇 go back to the library to read it until his suicidal thoughts disappeared altogether. He said he no longer felt alone. And I kept hearing things like that. After this letter, I was able to convince my publicity team that conversion therapy was a life-or-death situation, an issue we needed to push widely in the general public. We ended up working with the Human Rights Campaign, The Trevor Project, and many other fantastic organizations to ban conversion therapy. In many states, this became a rare bipartisan cause.鈥�

Conley said the marketing of the book and later the film became urgent for him. He didn鈥檛 want anyone to feel alienated for questioning their beliefs.

鈥淚 wanted everyone to know that we aren鈥檛 attacking religion or conservative values,鈥� Conley said. 鈥淲hat we鈥檙e attacking is torture. Particular methods being used against LGBTQ youth are torture, and if we can get that across, then we can create change. I think all of this publicity around 鈥淏oy Erased鈥� was a big reason conversion therapy was banned in many states.鈥�

鈥淏oy Erased鈥� was on the New York Times bestseller list for four weeks. Conley said one of his greatest life experiences during this time was getting to see his mom on a stage with Nicole Kidman in front of crowds of thousands.

鈥淎ll my mom鈥檚 life she鈥檇 been told she had made a mistake by taking me out of conversion therapy. And suddenly, there鈥檚 this whole world here to applaud you for being a hero and saving your child,鈥� Conley said. 鈥淢y mom stole the show from Nicole Kidman, if you can believe it. That鈥檚 how charming my mom is. It was the gift of a lifetime. She literally saved my life, so to have that moment where she was celebrated so widely was incredibly profound.鈥�

After monumental success with his debut book, Conley is about to embark on his second journey as an author. His upcoming novel, which launches on March 26, is historical fiction but embraces similar themes of religion and sexuality as it tells the story of a minister falling in love with another man in Puritan New England. 鈥淎ll the World Beside,鈥� out from Penguin Random House, is set to be released in March.

鈥淚 have over 500 sources for this book. I asked my graduate research assistant here at 食色视频 State, Aly Gilmore, to help organize all my research,鈥� Conley said. 鈥淪he was a miracle worker and tagged everything into categories like LGBTQ life in the 18^th century, material culture, even things like what a table would look like in the 18^th century. The texture of history is very important to my prose.鈥�

Conley said the time period and genre may differ, but the theme of his new book is similar to 鈥淏oy Erased.鈥�

鈥淵es, there鈥檚 a central LGBTQ love story in the middle of my new book, but the story is much bigger, just like 鈥楤oy Erased,鈥欌€� Conley said. 鈥淚t鈥檚 about family, forgiveness, and love. It鈥檚 an attempt to unerase people who existed in the past.鈥�

Conley is as passionate about teaching as he is about writing. He had wanted a nonfiction tenured track position when he was looking for a teaching opportunity. After a brief visit from his residence in New York, he happily accepted an offer from 食色视频 State in 2020.

鈥淚 feel perfectly calibrated to the students here. I grew up in the South, and a lot of my students are very much like the people I grew up with,鈥� Conley said. 鈥淚 love that this university is dynamic and changing, and the students want to share their stories. They aren鈥檛 shy or pretentious. There isn鈥檛 a level of privilege that you get in other teaching institutions.鈥�

Conley鈥檚 writings have literally changed and saved lives. He鈥檚 also mindful of his power to mold lives in the creative writing classes he teaches at the university.

鈥淲e talk about being vulnerable in our pieces,鈥� Conley said. 鈥淚 push my students to write with compassion and to treat their subjects with respect. Good fiction and good nonfiction have to make us see perspectives we didn鈥檛 consider. The students here are willing to listen, grow, and learn. I think there鈥檚 some special magic at 食色视频 that I鈥檓 not quite sure I entirely understand, but it鈥檚 here.鈥�

Conley will be on a book tour throughout the spring, but will be returning to the classroom at 食色视频 State next fall.

This article also appears in the current issue of 食色视频 State鈥檚 .

鈥� Amanda Cook

Photos by Darnell Wilburn

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